Unplanned Pregnancy? Adoption vs Parenting

Facing an unplanned pregnancy can be scary, difficult and confusing. Deciding what to do may be even harder. If you’re feeling alone, remember you are not the first nor the last woman to go through this. Thousands of women find themselves unexpectedly pregnant every year, and each of them is faced with an important decision to make.

Once discovering you are pregnant, there are two paths to consider: adoption or parenting. Angel Adoption helps birthmothers work through these options. We provide free support, counseling and detailed information to guide your decision. The more informed you are, the more confident you will be in your final choice.


Placing a baby for adoption is a loving and selfless decision. Not only does it pose benefits for you, the birthmother, but it will also be making dreams come true for a hopeful adoptive family. When choosing adoption, you have the special opportunity to see your baby after it’s born. You have the chance to hold your baby, and know that you are providing him or her the opportunity of a fulfilling life. You can move on with your life knowing that you made a loving and responsible choice.
But what if you want to see your baby after the birth? That is not a problem. Most birthmothers wish to keep in contact with their child and adoptive family. This is accomplished by choosing an open adoption. An open adoption allows ongoing contact to take place after the adoption is finalized via letters, photos, emails, phone calls and in person visits. An open adoption is also helpful throughout your pregnancy, as the adoptive family provides an additional support system. Often times the adoptive family will accompany birthmothers to doctor’s visits.
Finances are a big factor in an unplanned pregnancy. There is no cost to you if you choose adoption. In fact, pregnancy related expenses are often handled by the adoptive family. This includes but is not limited to medical care and living expenses.


Should you choose to parent, you are taking on a huge responsibility that will effect you for the rest of your life. While the general rule of thumb is that parenting means committing yourself to a child for the next 18 years, parenting is forever.
Parenting requires financial, emotional and physical stability. It also requires a solid support system. Do you make enough money to support a child? If not, will friends, family members or the birthfather to step in? According to an article published earlier this year by money.cnn.com, the average cost of raising a child over 18 years is over $240,000.
Parenting is a full time job. You will need to be emotionally and physically present for your child. That means attending to their every need. Supporting them when they are sick, injured or upset. Sacrificing sleep and your own well being to care for them at all hours of the day.
On the other hand, parenting does offer many special opportunities. You can love and care for your child. You can watch them grow up and be present for the special moments in life that only a child can provide. Most importantly, your pregnancy ends in new life.

How Angel can help

Angel Adoption stays true to one rule: your life. your baby. your choice. At no time will we pressure birthmothers into choosing adoption. We are simply here to offer our guidance, love and support – and to help women become educated on their options.
Please contact us for more information. We are available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Call us, email us or chat with us live at www.angeladoptioninc.com. You may also request free adoption information here.

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Angel Adoption, Inc. provides marketing and advertising services that assist biological parents considering adoption and prospective adoptive parents to connect with each other, and provides support and referral services throughout the process. Angel Adoption, Inc. is an independent contractor and provides services under the supervision of Lutheran Child and Family Services of Illinois, License #012998, One Oakbrook Terrace, #501, Oakbrook Terrace, IL 60181; 708-771-7180.