As the time grows near for a birthmother to deliver her baby, she may in some cases experience some anxiety about the birth. Even with counseling and birthing classes, fear of the unknown is inevitable and can cause undue worry even in a pregnancy that has been otherwise uneventful. An adoption birth plan can help alleviate some of those fears by giving you a plan for you, the hospital staff, and the adoptive parents to adhere to. Below are some things to keep in mind as you create your birth plan.
Adoption facilitators offer an incredibly useful service; they specialize in making the initial connection between a birthmother and an adoptive family, using a number of tools to help ensure you find the right fit. They may use questionnaires, counseling, interviews, and more to help determine which birthmother and adoptive family are likely to make a good fit for each other. However, because facilitators are not licensed or regulated beyond basic business regulations, some states restrict their use.
Adoptees, birthparents, and adoptive parents often have a lot to say about adoption privacy laws. Some believe one side or the other deserves complete privacy, while others argue that adoptees deserve to know who their birth family is. Adoption laws are currently undergoing quite a few changes, which can make it difficult for those involved to know what their options are. Below are some of the current conditions to keep in mind.
Pregnancy and childbirth can be a difficult time even under in the best of times, but birthparents often have some less than ideal circumstances to deal with during this time in their lives. Even if you feel completely sure that placing your child for adoption is the best choice for both you and the child, you may experience a roller coaster of emotions in the weeks, months, and even years following the placement. Below are some helpful resources you might consider taking advantage of to make this time easier for you.
Any kind of pregnancy requires a lot of decisions, but if you are considering placing your child for adoption, you may have some ahead of you that not many people around you can relate to. Chances are that female family members or friends can recommend a good OB-GYN, but chances are not as good that they can point you toward a reliable adoption agency. To help you make that decision, we’ve put together a small list of things to look for and consider when comparing adoption agencies.
It should come as no surprise that most women experience some anxiety when thinking about their upcoming labor and delivery. This is especially likely if this is your first pregnancy; fear of the unknown is completely reasonable. You’ve likely seen some distressing depictions of labor and delivery in movies and on television, which can of course make the whole thing seem even scarier than it might already be. Below, we discuss five common fears about giving birth and hope to help dispel those fears a bit.
When a birthmother is considering placing her child with you for adoption, you may feel the pressure to be perfect when meeting and getting to know her. Forming a bond with your child’s birthmother can be beneficial to you throughout the adoption process as well as good for your child as they grow and potentially want to get to know their birthmother. Below are some tips on how to build a connection with your child’s birthmother, from the first meeting until after the adoption is completed.
The bag you take to the hospital is one thing you definitely want to have prepared ahead of time. After all, you don’t want to be progressing farther into labor as you hurry around your home, trying to remember what you want to bring with you. Consult the list below and pack your bag ahead of time to help ensure you are able to get to the hospital quickly when the time comes.
Women can experience highs and lows after labor. If is very important to be able to recognize the symptoms of postpartum depression and enable women to deal with it. Birthmothers can go through a period of loss including various stages of grief such as anger, sorrow, denial, shock, and depression. The adoption process is very emotional, so it’s completely normal that postpartum depression in birthmothers appears after the placement. Knowing this makes it so important for adoptive parents to empathize demonstrate compassion for birthmothers. We’ve listed some ways to manage some of the complications from postpartum depression. Continue reading
While it can be easy to put all of your focus on your new child during an adoption, it is important to remember the other side of this equation: the birthparents. They are much more than the people providing you an opportunity to have a child; they’re still biologically connected with them. While not every birthmother is willing to consider an open adoption, when it’s a possibility, it should certainly be considered for the benefits they offer a child throughout his or her life. Continue reading