The adoption process can be hard on birth parents as they experience a wide range of strong emotions. Music can be soothing, especially when you feel the song supports you through what you are going through.
Here are 5 songs that you may find inspirational as a birth parent:
- I Will Remember You by Sarah McLachlan
Sarah McLachlan is an adoptee herself. Her song “I Will Remember You” will definitely pull on your heart-strings as she sings about someone you love and have lost.
The song’s chorus is extremely relatable as you think of the child you placed for adoption and all of the good things you want for them and their life:
I will remember you, will you remember me?
Don’t let your life pass you by
Weep not for the memories
- Somewhere Out There by Linda Ronstadt and James Ingram
While this song has been recorded by numerous artists, Linda Ronstadt and James Ingram undoubtedly deliver it as a wonderful heartfelt tribute.
“Somewhere Out There” will give you hope and make you feel connected to that loved one that you are not able to physically be with.
As a birth parent, this song will surely help you feel connected to your child as Ronstadt and Ingram sing:
And even though I know how very far apart we are
It helps to think we might be wishing
On the same bright star
- From God’s Arms, To My Arms, To Yours by Michael McLean
If you are looking for a more religious song to help support you as a birth parent, then “From God’s Arms, To My Arms, To Yours” may be just what you need.
The lyrics are written as though it is a birth parent speaking to an adoptive parent. The birth parent is asking the adoptive parent to take care of their child and to remind them they are loved by their birth parents.
You may feel yourself relating to the voice as McLean sings:
And maybe you can tell your baby,
when you love him so, that he’s been loved before;
By someone who delivered your son
From God’s arms, to my arms, to yours.
- I Will Always Love You by Dolly Pardon
While it is a song made popular by Whitney Houston, you may find the slower and more quiet original recording by Dolly Pardon more soothing when working through your emotions as a birth parent.
“I Will Always Love You” impresses that you will always love and wish the best for someone that you may not be able to be with anymore.
As a birth parent you may find yourself singing along as Pardon softly sings:
I hope life, will treat you kind
And I hope that you have all
That you ever dreamed of
Oh I do wish you joy
And I wish you happiness
But above all this
I wish you love
I love you
I will always love you
- Everything to Me by Mark Schultz
If you are worried about what your child might think of you as a birth parent you may find “Everything to Me” comforting. Schultz wrote it as an adoptee for his own birth mother.
If you are looking for reassurance about your decision, Schultz will give it to you with his lyrics:
So if you worry if your choice was right
When you gave me up,
Oh, you gave everything to me