How it All Began...
Why did you choose to work with Angel Adoption?
We always knew adoption was in our future. After a car accident left Brad paralyzed, conceiving a child was something we wouldn't be able to do. After talking to Angel for the first time, we know immediately we wanted to work with them. Everyone was so passionate about the adoption process, and you could just fell their genuine eagerness to help.
What were you most excited about?
We were most excited to meet our baby and complete our family.
What were you most nervous about?
We were most nervous about the birthmother changing her mind.
How did your friends and family react to your decision to adopt?
Our family and friends couldn't have been more excited and supportive of our decision to adopt. When we first told them we had started the adoption process, there were lots of hugs and tears of joy.
What was it like meeting your baby’s birthmother for the first time?
We were nervous to meet our son’s birthmother for the first time. We wanted to make a good first impression and wanted her to fall in love with us. We totally fell in love with her! It did not take long at all to be comfortable with each other. After only a couple hours we felt as though we had known her forever and she was a part of our family.
Did you choose an open or closed adoption?
We choose an open adoption because that is what our son’s birthmother wanted. We were hesitant, but after meeting her, those hesitations all went away.
Describe receiving the call that your baby was being born and traveling to meet him.
Our son arrived three weeks early, so we were initially very surprised when our birthmother notified us that she would be delivering so soon. Then we were excited, scared, and sad all at the same time. We planned to be there for the birth, but were about 2,000 miles away, so we knew that wasn't going to happen.
Describe the experience of finally meeting your baby.
It is hard to put into words how we felt when we first met him. We traveled for 12 hours, so to say we were anxious would be an understatement. We couldn't hold him tight enough, close enough, or long enough. It was perfect.
What is your relationship like with the birthmother?
We have a good relationship with our son’s birthmother. We are very lucky to have such a caring and loving person in all of our lives.
What were the biggest challenges of the adoption process?
The biggest challenge was the waiting. From start to finish, after each process, you wait.
Adopting a baby can be a lengthy process — how did you get through the wait?
Before our son was born, talking to his birthmother helped. She was wonderful with keeping us posted on how she was feeling and on all her doctor’s appointments. After our son was born and before the adoption was finalized, just having him with us made everything else seem small, and we would wait forever if we had to.
Would you adopt again? Why or why not?
We would adopt again, simply because the love you have for someone else is such an amazing feeling.
Do you have any advice to share with other adoptive parents?
Let any hesitations go because it will all be worth it in the end. You will not regret going for it but will regret not going for it. I did not know you could feel this way about someone else until I became a mom.