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Practicing Self Care after Adoption

Practicing Self Care after Adoption

It is important to take care of yourself after adoption, so here is a short guide on how to give yourself adequate self care in the time following placement. Not every birthmother experiences the same responses to placing their child for adoption, but people typically experience reactions that can be sorted into these basic categories.

Psychological & Emotional

  • Irritability, restlessness, or overexcitability
  • Feelings of sadness, moodiness, or more crying than usual
  • Feelings of helplessness or hopelessness
  • Feelings of numbness or detachment
  • Re-experiencing the event, which can include intrusive thoughts, distressing dreams or nightmares, flashbacks, feelings of isolation, etc.

Cognitive

  • Difficulty concentrating
  • Feeling confused or distracted, slower thought than normal

Behavioral

  • Hyperactivity
  • Lethargy
  • Irritability
  • Social isolation
  • Insomnia
  • Strong need to talk about the event

If you are experiencing any of the above symptoms after placement, just remember that what you are feeling is completely normal. In the days following placement, you might feel sad, confused, detached from reality, or disrupted. That is why adequate self-care is important.

Self Care

The first thing to do is to remind yourself that these responses are completely normal. Allow yourself to feel your emotions and don’t blame yourself for them. Treat yourself with kindness and understanding and listen to your body and mind as they tell you what you need.

When you feel tired, you deserve to give yourself some rest and if you get hyperactive just try to use that energy. Don’t force yourself to do something you’re not feeling up to doing.

Another important factor is talking to people. If you feel overwhelmed, reach out. Feelings will come, and they will be strong, so it is important to have someone you can trust to go through the experience with you. If you don’t have someone like that, reach out to people via the internet or look for a local support group. If that doesn’t work, there are always crisis lines and other community resources, and they are here to help.

Another important thing to note is that it is best to avoid making any major life decisions or big life changes if you can.

Don’t put any added pressure on yourself until you feel better – just concentrate on yourself.

Give yourself the time and space to read, take a bath, cry, rage, and express any other feelings you might have. Avoid numbing the pain with substances of any kind that will only prolong the healing period. It is not cathartic as a habit. Make the most of this time to heal and take care of yourself so you can ease yourself back into the rhythm of everyday life.

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